Why can't I get a job anywhere

The Truth: Why You Don't Get the Job

It is for Despair. You have revised and optimized your application documents over and over again, and you are also repeatedly invited to an interview. The conversations are actually going quite well, after all, you have prepared yourself for possible questions and asked good questions. More is not possible. And still you always get again a rejection of the type: Unfortunately we have to inform you… It feels like a foul: unfair! A thud in the pit of the stomach. But mostly it has reasons. Reasons that nobody openly expresses ...

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Why don't I get the job?

First of all there are the very obvious factual reasonsthat occur again and again - and all of them too not your fault are:

  • Competitor.

    You very likely weren't the only candidate to apply for the position. In the end, there are usually three applicants on the shortlist - and one of the others was either better qualified than you or sold better. This is normal competition and doesn't have to annoy you. But if you never get the job, that cause is increasingly unlikely.

  • Qualification.

    That also happens: You are overqualified. Only in contrast to gaps in the résumé or weaknesses, skills and qualifications that are too high cannot be changed. It's hard to forget what you've learned and give back all your degrees. But the stigma doesn't have to be the end of your application - if you handle it correctly.

  • Pro forma tender.

    No question about it, that is unfair, but it happens quite often, especially with internal job advertisements: The position has to be officially advertised - but unofficially, the candidate has long been determined. And you are not. Nevertheless, they will take a closer look at you, let you go through the application process so that you may be on the radar for the next vacant job. Instead of getting annoyed about wasting time, see it positively: as training for later emergencies.

  • Restructuring.

    Unfortunately, that also happens: in the middle of the selection process, the position is canceled or redefined for operational reasons - with the effect that the requirements for applicants also change. And you may not have fit in the new position.

  • Salary.

    Sometimes companies ask about your salary expectations when you apply. And of course you know your market value and state it accordingly. Unfortunately, this is over the budget for the advertised position. Colloquially one would say: They were too expensive. But that doesn't always apply. Or maybe you are simply overqualified (see above). In any case, you should check whether your salary expectations for the desired occupation are realistic and marketable (use our free market value test). Or maybe you just gambled too high - that would actually be your mistake.

  • Fit.

    Even if you would have liked to get the job: Your previous career does not match the ideas of the new employer. While your many job changes are an enrichment for you that make you universally applicable, the HR manager sees it more as a signal for inconsistency and a shaky candidate. That is a matter of interpretation - and bad luck. But neither is your fault. Therefore: Cheer up, keep looking and maybe revise and optimize the application documents again ...

  • Misjudgment.

    Okay, you felt good during the interview, and afterwards you were euphoric and motivated. But it could also be that your perception is deceptive. It is quite possible that you impressed the recruiter less than you thought. In short: the “chemistry” was just not right. Nothing can be done about that. But: If the personal doesn't fit, the job probably wouldn't have made you happy either. Take the opportunity to take a self-critical look at yourself and your application in order to improve your performance next time.

All of these reasons do occur and are not that rare. There are still, however other causes for the regular cancellations - and they are not too convenient. We'll call you anyway ...

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Relentless Truth: Personal Reasons for Job Refusal

Now it's time to get down to business - and it could also become uncomfortable. But we want to say it anyway.

Too often it is underestimated how important it is social component and relationship level is in the interview. Most candidates focus on the preparation professional suitabilitywhich is not unimportant, but also relatively interchangeable.

Many applicants today have a good qualification, experience abroad, knowledge of foreign languages, initial successes, the usual. But in the end someone like that has to fit into the team and the personality with which you can enrich the existing workforce - at least five days a week for a few years.

And this is exactly where some dangerous attitudes can become job killers in an interview:

  • They babble.

    That may sound trivial, but quite a few applicants communicate worse in job interviews than they actually can. They don't answer the questions they are asked briefly and crisply, but complain, hardly keep eye contact, chew chewing gum or talk without getting to the point. No matter how convincing the qualifications are. Communication skills are one of the most important factors in job interviews. After all: it can be trained.

  • You come across as unsympathetic.

    Usually this is packaged in a more charming way and then sounds like this: They didn't fit into our corporate culture. Or: We had the feeling that you would not feel comfortable with us. Such formulations make it more bearable. In essence, however, it boils down to this: You couldn't be tolerated. Perhaps you seem too confident, downright arrogant, because you give the impression that you are God's gift to humanity. Error. Show yourself more human, with weaknesses and a willingness to learn. That is better received.

  • You show too much anger.

    With each further refusal, self-confidence melts. First comes the sadness, then the frustration, and finally it turns into anger and anger. They feel misunderstood and mocked by fate and the world. The feeling is understandable, but you should never show it. Not even if you have previously been bullied or terminated. Everyone can feel this anger in their stomach - you can even read it between the lines of some of the comments on this page. And she's a career killer! Because in the subtext there is always a suspicion: Here is someone who would rather grapple with fate than take it into his own hands; someone who holds others and circumstances accountable rather than taking them on for themselves.

  • You seem desperate.

    Depression follows anger one step further. They desperately need a job, an income. In short: you are no longer an applicant, but a supplicant. The filling of the position should not be a handout, but create added value. Therefore you will never be able to convince with the attitude. No matter how much the water is up to your neck: Sell yourself as the best cast (without becoming arrogant!) And give the HR manager the feeling, not you - he has the chance to hire you here and now.

  • You don't play by the rules of the game.

    Some applicants think the selection process is not smart or half-baked, maybe the HR managers actually ask stupid or even illegal questions. Sure, you don't have to answer it then. There are limits somewhere. But even before that, complaining about the selection process has negative consequences. Those who fail to meet deadlines, refuse references, ask questions, are overwhelmed with their salary and appear too aggressive, do not appear to be a clever critic, but rather a spoilsport and stubborn know-it-all. It goes without saying that someone like that is rarely hired.

Like the reasons uncomfortable but an application is also a game, a mutual promotion of oneself - for the person and the company. The human factor often plays a bigger role than is officially admitted.

Don't give up: this is how you deal constructively with rejections

It would also be wrong to let your head down for this reason. You better go constructive to:

  • Don't take it personally!

    Rejections, possibly even repeated ones, hurt and gnaw away at one's self-esteem. But they shouldn't. Because that doesn't mean you aren't good. It just shows you where you can still work on yourself.

  • Learn from it!

    Be realistic: you haven't won anything - but you haven't lost anything either. Ultimately, you feel the same way after the rejection as before. Even more: you have shown courage, dared to do something - and gained experience.

  • Improve your application!

    Criticism, even subtle, has to be digested first. After that, however, you can turn every defeat into increasing opportunities: What you don't take personally makes you more confident, stronger. And mistakes that you now know will not be made a second time. Your application will become more perfect every time - while your competitors are still learning.

  • Always be polite!

    Whoever says “no” today may say “yes” tomorrow. Thank you anyway for the chance to have a good conversation and show your greatness. If you fail here, you burn bridges that you might want to cross again tomorrow.

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17th December 2020Author: Jochen Mai

Jochen Mai is the founder and editor-in-chief of the career bible. The author of several books lectures at the TH Köln and is a sought-after keynote speaker, coach and consultant.

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