Why is a positive attitude important

A matter of attitude: how your thinking influences success

Do you know the story of Hans im Glück? For seven years of hard work, he received a gold nugget. He exchanged this for a horse. He exchanged the horse for a cow, the cow for a pig, the pig for a goose, until he finally got whetstones. When he sat down by a well for a drink, the stones fell into it. But instead of getting annoyed about it, he was relieved to finally be rid of the burden. Hans ‘attitude is remarkable: he does not grieve about the loss, but concentrates on the positive. Most people behave differently: they only see the negative aspects. Fatal! Success is also one A matter of attitude: In many situations, the attitude decides whether you win or lose. Why this is so and how you can use it for yourself ...

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Success is a matter of attitude

Whether you're facing challenges, grabbing opportunities, making the most of unexpected changes - it is all A matter of attitude.

For some people this is easy: They are offered a new job and take it up. They have to move away from their hometown - and they are already planning their first city tour. You will be transferred abroad - and first of all buy a phrasebook ...

Others quarrel, do not trust each other or refuse. What some have and what others lack Self-efficacy.

Whoever has self-efficacy has one unwavering faith that he is up to the situation and can cope with challenges. Such a person does not see himself in the role of victim, but draws self-confidence from his own skills.

The good news: your personal one attitude can be influenced - not only from the outside through successes, but also from within.

For example, if you tell yourself every day that you can't do something, you won't ultimately make it either. So-called Beliefs (Affirmations in technical jargon) exert an influence on our thinking and thus also on our attitude.

Job success does not automatically make you happy

Success at work does not automatically make you happier in life. This is the result of a study by the social psychologist Andrea Abele-Brehm from FAU (990 employees, questioned twice every two years, average age: 37). Play though professional development and success an important role in life satisfaction. But professional success was only made more satisfied if the respondents rated their career positively, themselves compared to other rated them well and their professional performance matched their personal goals.

In any case, more money and responsibility alone did not make them happier. “The connection between professional success and life satisfaction is indirect. He becomes authoritative through subjective evaluation processes influences ”, explains Andrea Abele-Brehm.

Language shapes perception and attitude

By the way, beliefs have nothing to do with religious or ideological beliefs. Rather, they are statements and guiding principles with which you can influence yourself positively and Change your inner attitude and attitude lastingly can.

Even if you have such best practicesskeptical we invite you to try them out.

The principle behind it is simple: Language shapes awareness. We can with these inner attitudes direct our perception - and with it our actions.

The positive effect does - we want to emphasize here - of course not after a few repetitions of the belief. To a lasting effect to achieve, you have to memorize the individually appropriate belief (internalize) and keep in mind.

Language shapes our perception. The effect only sets in after a few repetitions and daily training. But all the more sustainable.

It's all a matter of attitude! Beliefs Blocking You

Well there is though Beliefsthat strengthen and motivate you and those that keep you from realizing your goals and dreams. The latter are of the nasty kind. Especially since many people do not even notice that they are acting according to such (harmful) beliefs.

Therefore, when reading the following (negative) beliefs, you should take a few minutes to ask yourself: Do I believe that too? Do I sometimes think the same way?

  • I can not do it.

    You may be consciously working towards a promotion. However, if you subconsciously believe that you cannot do this, all your efforts will be in vain. Take the time and honestly check whether you trust yourself to do the task at hand or the goal you have set yourself.

  • Is it even worth it?

    You have the necessary skills and you know exactly how to achieve your goal. Well. But if you still have doubts, you have to ask yourself whether you really want that. With the above question, you can cause any project to fail without exception. After all, you can only be sure whether a goal is worthwhile or not once you have achieved it. Before that, it is exactly that: purely a matter of attitude.

  • What will the colleagues think?

    Transportation is within reach. But will your colleagues even accept you as their new manager? What will your friends say about it? If you base your goals on the - presumed - opinions of others, you are guaranteed to never make any headway. Does the opinion of others really matter? In the end, it just comes down to whether you stand behind your goal or not.

  • It is good as it is.

    You are satisfied with your professional situation. The tasks challenge you, you enjoy the job. Runs ... at least talk yourself into it. In fact, you are afraid of change. Mostly because it's uncomfortable. But also because it means a journey into the unknown. But that's not how you develop further and you miss a lot of opportunities. Quite a few remain below their potential. Which, strictly speaking, is also a kind of failure.

  • I have no time.

    You too probably know people who talk a lot about going on a long trip, practicing a certain sport or learning an instrument, if you only had the time. And we both know: this is nothing more than an excuse. If you really want something, you will find ways. If you don't want to, you will find reasons - or just excuses. The perfect time never comes. And dreams become reality only through making. Nobody wins a prize by mouth!

  • It could also go wrong.

    Sure, it always can. There is no guarantee of success. So what?! Did that stop all the other successful people from doing what they were doing? Just. Anyone who wants to try something new must also be prepared to take a certain risk. Just wait and see, let valuable opportunities slip by. In retrospect, however, most people do not regret their mistakes, but rather the missed opportunities.

  • I am not good enough.

    Probably the deadliest of all beliefs. With that you make yourself small. And he's wrong. You are enough. Always. Point. Talents and potentials lie dormant in each of us that want to be awakened. The attitude of not being enough blocks everyone - even your advocates. If you don't believe in yourself, who else is going to do it ?!

  • My best times are over.

    With all due respect: nonsense! Your time is over when you are on your deathbed. Not previously. So quickly forget that thought. This also applies to work: Even at 55 or 60 you can reinvent yourself again. In many positions, even experience counts more than knowledge. It may be that one or the other position is no longer an option for you. You now have other options for doing this. Just use them!

  • I don't want to be the troublemaker.

    This setting is typical for groups or teams. One makes a suggestion, two say YES - and everyone else is silent. Although they have concerns. Nobody wants to be uncomfortable or even the spoilsport. Behind this is a dangerous need for harmony. Wherever such a mentality spreads, it hinders progress and creativity. It takes lateral thinkers who sometimes question well-tried approaches.

  • What happened if…

    The question “what if?” Can become an excruciating burden. What if I didn't get a rejection? What if I hadn't been fired? No question about it: root cause research, self-reflection and analysis are useful tools for learning from mistakes. In excess, however, they slow us down, look back and block. Brooding over what could have been is also a speculative waste of time. It's just different. So look ahead!

Beliefs that motivate and empower you

Now it's getting positive: In addition to the beliefs that block us, there are also those that positively influence, motivate and inspire us. As I said, this does not automatically lead to success - the path to it remains connected with work. But such attitudes have the power to spur us on, to inspire us. They give us back more energy and confidence in ourselves.

Our recommendation: Make these beliefs and attitudes your own ...

  • I decide how to react to events.

    Far too often people feel as though they are at the mercy of the events and circumstances in their lives. Even if events cannot be influenced, it is always up to you how you react to them and how you deal with them.

  • I can and want to learn from everyone.

    There are people - including colleagues and bosses - who are just exhausting and annoying. You can still learn from them - even if it's just how it doesn't work. By viewing these people as learning opportunities, they suddenly have a meaningful function. Positive side effect: Your behavior can also be better endured.

  • My goals are important to me.

    The key message here is: Your goals are important to YOU ​​- to no one else! It also means that you shouldn't count on the support of others. Sure, it's nice when there is help. But in the end it is entirely up to you whether you work towards your goal.

  • I decide whether I'm angry or happy.

    Feelings come and go. Sometimes they overwhelm us too. But we are not at the mercy of them helplessly. Anger starts in the head. Contentment, gratitude and serenity as well. All of them are also a matter of attitude. Please remember: Anyone who can annoy you has power over you. It is up to you whether you (want to) allow that.

  • I decide whose opinion really matters.

    Quite a few let themselves be unsettled by criticism and the opinions of others. When asked, however, it becomes clear that the critics and know-it-alls do not have to live YOUR life at all. They already have enough to deal with with their own. Here, too, you decide for yourself whose opinion matters to you and who you listen to - and who not.

  • I design my way myself.

    You cannot control all of the factors. You just have to accept some developments. But that doesn't change the fact that you can shape your own path - in all areas of life - within the scope of your possibilities. This certainty leaves hopelessness or helplessness no chance.

  • My values ​​shape and guide my actions.

    Values ​​give us orientation and support. They are like guard rails that keep us on our way. Here too, it should be YOUR own values ​​- not imposed ones. But real convictions of your own. Then they shape our character and guide us. Even in gloomy times.

  • I set my goals myself and consistently pursue them.

    Many goals are set by the employer or other bodies. While some of them have to be achieved - after all, you have a job to do and get paid to do it - it is crucial that you never lose sight of your personal goals or give them away.

  • I decide which people are important to me.

    Over time, some people develop a certain attitude towards others - for example after working together for a long time or through their position. Motto: Because I helped you once, you always have to have time for me now ... Resolve such claims resolutely. Make it clear that you decide which people are important to you and when.

  • Every step brings me closer to my goal.

    Sometimes career changes are also associated with apparent regression. A change to a lower-paying job, a hierarchical descent and similar changes can be necessary in the event of a professional reorientation. However, such steps should never be seen as a mistake or a setback, but rather as part of the development towards an individual goal.

Take control of your life and believe in your success. Even if that sounds like truism and calendar saying: It works! It's all a matter of attitude!

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20th October 2020Author: Jochen Mai

Jochen Mai is the founder and editor-in-chief of the career bible. The author of several books lectures at the TH Köln and is a sought-after keynote speaker, coach and consultant.

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