What makes a good pediatrician

"It is very important to me that the pediatrician responds to my child, that the time ... is technically competent and the human should also be right ... The chemistry must primarily fit between my child and the doctor"Quote: netmoms.de

The chemistry must be right... also between the pediatrician and parentsby Simone Richterhttp://www.mobile-elternmagazin.de

When choosing a pediatrician, many parents are very sensitive and critical, because they should definitely develop a good relationship with both the child and them. But how does it look the other way around? What do pediatricians expect or want from parents? Our author Simone Richter did the research.

W.hat makes a "good" pediatrician? Is he empathetic, does he take his time, does he talk to the little patient in a child-friendly manner, is he available in emergencies? Most parents have a few important points on their list about this.

But how does it look the other way around? How do paediatricians want the relationship with mums and dads? After all, there are always two patients in the consultation room, namely a small and a large one: Parents come to the consultation with many worries, questions and concerns. You have to trust the doctor and his therapy, make sure that the child takes the necessary medicine regularly and keeps check-ups.

Parents now observe their children more closelyDr. Ulrich Fegeler, press spokesman for the professional association of paediatricians, praises the parents overall: "Parents usually know intuitively how to support the doctor and usually follow the therapy information reliably." However, the doctor has noticed over the years that parents react differently today than they used to: "They observe their child very closely and register every slight deviation from the norm - be it breathing, coughing or defecating." On the one hand, this is of course helpful in order to identify diseases early on. However, the slightest change does not have to be a serious symptom of an illness. "Fever in particular - which is initially just a sensible defense reaction of the body - often triggers unnecessary panic among young parents."

Dr. Fegeler thinks that it is part of the job of a pediatrician to be able to deal with the fears and views of parents, but in practice every colleague sometimes comes up against limits. Take measles, for example: most paediatricians recommend preventive vaccination because of the potential for serious complications. "All the scientific facts speak for themselves here," says Dr. Fegeler. But that is sometimes not enough when half-knowledge or esoteric views are involved. "When parents tell me that they reject the vaccination because measles is a 'karma experience for the child', then I have to admit that I cannot convince everyone."

Self-diagnosis should be taboo for parentsThe pediatrician Prof. Dr. Harald Bode has made the experience that parents have generally "become more critical, demanding and demanding" and that is definitely positive. "We doctors want mature patients!" He points out, however, that the layperson cannot always draw the right conclusions from the confusing wealth of information that is circulating in the media and the Internet.

"I am happy when someone has done some research beforehand. It is another matter when parents make diagnoses themselves or think they know exactly which medication or therapy the child needs."

One example is the "globulation" of pediatric medicine. Parents ask specifically about the homeopathic pellets or have already tried a number of alternative methods before they come to the practice. "According to our research, at least half of the children receive alternative treatment from their parents. That is by no means objectionable in itself," says Dr. Harald Bode, "as long as medically necessary measures are not omitted." The pediatrician should definitely know if parents also rely on homeopathy, Schüssler salts or other healing methods. Only then can he address the limits of these treatments: "Not giving the anti-epileptic drug to a child with an epileptic seizure would be almost a crime."

Not every deviation from the norm has to be treatedProfessor Bode is President of the German Society for Social Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine and in this role another topic is very close to his heart: "We are observing a worrying trend: 30 percent of children in a given year group receive professional support and therapy measures as early as preschool age Physiotherapy, occupational therapy or speech therapy treatment. " Therapy is given, although it is often only a question of a standard variant of child development: one person walks, speaks or crawls earlier, the other later. What the neighbor's daughter can already do, the son of the same age learns a few weeks later. "However, many parents want the perfect and smoothly functioning child at all times - and send them to unnecessary and sometimes even harmful treatments." He therefore advises more serenity and positive affection when dealing with the individual characteristics of the child. And after all, that's what most parents want from the pediatrician ...